Almost Adulting with Violet Benson
HumorFaktaHelseImmerse yourself in the BIGGEST self-love podcast and movement - your ultimate go-to for personal growth with a side of sass. We cover it all, from dating bootcamps to mental health moments, because self-love is the foundation of everything in your life – from your friendships to your own mental well-being and everything in between.I’m your host, Violet Benson, aka the Daddy Issues meme queen, comedian, and motivational speaker. But most importantly, I'm YOUR Russian big sister, dishing out that tough love you might not want to hear, but best believe you're gonna need!Get ready to feel empowered, liberated, and seen like never before! Change your life and subscribe to Almost Adulting! Your healing journey starts NOW. New episode drops every Thursday.
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- Why You Need to Stop Caring Who Thinks You’re Cringe (00:30:46)
Thinking about starting that business, becoming an influencer, or finally posting that video?? If the only thing standing between you and your dreams is worrying what people might think.. then this episode is about to set you FREE.Truth is, other people’s opinions are keeping you Broke & boring babe.. which is why today, we’re unpacking Mel Robbins’ Let Them Think Bad Thoughts. And once you get it, you’ll realise other people’s opinions have zero power over you. This is your permission slip to post, build, create, and live unapologetically.Want an ad free podcast experience?? Subscribe to my ad free podcast at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Top 5 Mind Games Narcissists Play (00:42:03)
Welcome to the narcissist playbookThink you’ve never dated a narcissist? Think again. From love bombing to gaslighting to the classic “I’m sorry you feel that way” non-apology—these are the Top 5 Mind Games Narcissists Play that’ll have you questioning your reality, your group chat, and maybe even your sanity. On today's episode, Violetta is breaking down their playbook, exposing every trick, and telling you exactly how to spot the BS before it wrecks your self-esteem. If you’ve ever left a date wondering if you’re crazy… spoiler: you’re not. He’s just a narcissist.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Finding My Husband: Billionaire or Bookman? (Part 6) (00:56:31)
Do you pick the billionaire with private jets and a family fortune, or the guy who makes you feel safe but probably flies coach? In Part 6 of “Finding My Husband,” the universe drops a literal billionaire into my life right as I’m about to take things with Bookman to the next level. I unpack lust vs. stability, attachment wounds, and the messy decisions that follow… and by the end, I make a huge choice.WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE, BESTIE?Don’t forget to subscribe for weekly episodes and leave a 5-star review on Apple or Spotify so I know you want more of this series.(Dating podcast • relationship advice • modern love • situationship • dating stories)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- GET HIM OBSESSED - LIBRA (00:25:05)
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This September, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to making a Libra man obsessed with YOU.Get ready to discover:🔥 How to charm the ultimate romantic and keep him captivated by you.🔥 Foolproof ways to balance his love for beauty, harmony, and connection.🔥 What he values most in a relationship (and what will tip the scales against you).🔥 The signs he’s pulling away—and how to bring back the spark.🔥 Strategies to win him back if things have gone off course.Whether you’re drawn to his charm and sophistication or working to reignite his passion, this episode will give you the tools to master the art of loving a Libra man.Hit play now and make sure to save this episode to make this September all about claiming the heart of the zodiac’s ultimate charmer! ✨See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Finding My Husband: Part 5 (00:34:42)
Think you’ve had the worst date ever? Try going out with a musician… WORST. DATE. FINAL. BOSS.From men wearing my Skims to guys with kids my age, the dating pool isn’t just in hell… it’s swimming in piss and UTIs. Welcome to Part 5, besties. Buckle up because this episode is UNHINGED and will have you laughing your socks off. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Finding My Husband: Part 4 (00:37:31)
From choking games to first kisses. Welcome to the most chaotic update yet. Is Book Man too good to be true… or did I just meet my match?See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Finding My Husband: Part 3 (00:39:29)
He planned the perfect rom-com date.. five hours of sparks, soul-connection, and eye contact so intense - it puts your favourite book daddy to shame. Twenty minutes later? I dumped him. Did I fumble… or dodge a bullet? You tell me.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Finding My Husband: Part 2 (00:37:05)
No intro. No filter. Just me crashing out mid-coffee jitters, questioning a man’s job, his five passports, and whether I just met my future husband or the next Tinder Swindler. Welcome to Part 2.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- GET HIM OBSESSED - VIRGO (00:23:19)
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This August, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting a Virgo man obsessed with YOU.Get ready to discover:🔥 The secrets to understanding his perfectionist tendencies—and how to meet his high standards.🔥 Foolproof ways to earn his trust and keep his attention.🔥 What he values most in a partner (and what will make him back away).🔥 Subtle signs he’s losing interest—and how to win him back effortlessly.🔥 The best strategies to reignite the spark if he starts pulling away.Whether you’re drawn to his intelligence and dependability or trying to reignite the connection, this episode will show you how to handle the zodiac’s most meticulous lover.Tune in now and make this August all about mastering the art of Virgo romance!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Finding My Husband: Part 1 (00:40:21)
Okay besties… it begins. I’m officially back in the dating game - I'm talking Hinge, matchmakers, awkward dates I already regret, and I’m taking you with me. This is Part 1 of Finding My Husband, and yes, there will be updates. Stay tuned as I take you on this journey. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- 4 Proven Ways to Turn Any 'No' Into a 'Yes' (00:41:24)
Think getting ahead is about luck? Think again. In this episode of Almost Adulting, I’m giving you my unfiltered playbook for turning every 'no' into a 'hell yes,' getting hired when you’re underqualified, nailing interviews, and beating the competition for the promotion you deserve. Today you’ll learn how to:• Get a YES (even when you’re not the obvious choice) through manipulation• Turn rejection into opportunity• Outshine everyone in an interview and get hired on the spot• Position yourself for the next big promotion• And walk away with strategies that will change how you move in business and in life, forever. Don’t forget to share today’s episode with anyone who needs a wake-up call, and save it so you can come back to it whenever you need a reminder. And of course, if you enjoyed today’s episode, please leave me a five-star review on the Apple Podcasts app! I love you so much, thank you for listening, bestie.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Younger Men Do It Better: Caroline Stanbury & Sergio from Real Housewives of Dubai (00:55:01)
Why Women Are Choosing Younger MenThis week on Almost Adulting, I’m joined by the power couple that broke the internet—and probably a few age-gap double standards. Caroline Stanbury (yes, that Caroline from Ladies of London and Real Housewives of Dubai) and her hot husband Sergio (ex-pro footballer, full-time golden retriever energy) are here to prove that age is just a number—and chemistry is undefeated.We’re talking:Vagina Watch 2016—where the love story beganSleeping together early (and why Sergio needed a second chance)The car he tried to hide and Caroline’s brutal reactionThe perks of dating younger: stamina, TikTok fluency, and unapologetic oral sexBotox, poo talk, and why confidence > collagenWhy their relationship makes people uncomfortableDating across a language barrier and how Sergio really feltHaters, labels, and how to flip judgment into powerPlus: is dating a younger man the secret to crafting the emotionally available partner your therapist keeps promising?If you’ve ever been judged for who you love, questioned if you’re too old to start over, or just want the tea on naked confidence and facelifts—this one’s for you! Grab your AirPods. And maybe a younger man, and hit play.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- How Emotionally Immature Parents Affect You (00:30:29)
Do you ever feel weirdly lonely in your relationships? Like you’re the one always doing the work—overthinking, overgiving, overfunctioning—and you still feel...empty? You’re not crazy. You might just have grown up with an emotionally immature parent.In this special Benson Book Club episode, I break down the first chapter of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and walk you through the hidden patterns that are silently shaping your love life, self-worth, and ability to trust your instincts. From guilt for feeling unhappy, to people-pleasing, to dating men who “just don’t get it”—this episode unpacks all of it.This one’s for the girls who grew up being the emotional support system for everyone else, and are only now realizing that’s not normal. Let’s heal the inner child, stop normalizing dysfunction, and stop mistaking emotional starvation for love.Tag your best friend, take the quiz, cry a little, and reclaim your standards.Want an ad free podcast experience?? Subscribe to my ad free podcast at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:Nutrafol - Nutrafol is offering my listeners $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol and enter the promo code ADULTING.Today's episode is brought to you by: Shopify!!! Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial and start selling today at shopify.com/AdultingSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- 20 Things Your 20’s Are Too Short For (00:19:50)
If you're in your twenties then listen to this.Your 20s are all about embracing mistakes, growth, and becoming the person you’re meant to be. In today's short episode, I’m sharing 20 things your 20s are too short for—like staying in toxic relationships, letting others define your worth, and holding back from living your best life. Plus, stick around for a powerful manifesting mantra at the end to help you shape the future you desire. <3See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- GET HIM OBSESSED - LEO (00:22:52)
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This July, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to making a Leo man obsessed with YOU.Get ready to discover:🔥 What he craves in a partner—and how to become his ultimate desire.🔥 Foolproof ways to grab his attention and keep his spotlight on you.🔥 Subtle signs he’s losing interest—and how to win back his fiery passion.🔥 How to handle his bold personality and keep the romance alive.🔥 The best strategies to reignite the spark if things cool off.Leo men are the kings of romance, radiating confidence and charm like no other—this episode will show you how to claim his heart and keep it all yours. 🦁See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Right Person, Wrong Time - Listen to This Before You Decide (00:31:12)
Ring ring… hellllllo? It’s your big sis Violetta coming to your rescue!Hi besties!! It’s the second week of the month, and you know what that means: a brand new episode of Ask Violetta. But today, we’re doing things a little differently... We’re answering just one question. But not just any question—the one that haunts your group chat at 2am:“What if they’re your soulmate… but the timing’s off?”You swear they’re the one. Your twin flame. Your human dopamine hit. Every text gives you fanny flutters. But fate? She’s a petty little b*tch. Wrong place. Wrong time. Right person. It’s a tale as old as time… so what the hell do you do??? Listen to this episode obviously!So if that’s you, hit play. If it's your bestie, hit send. Because someone in your group chat needs to hear this before it's too late.By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly what to do. And if that means letting go? I’ve got you boo, with 9 steps to detach like the hot unbothered queen you were always meant to be.P.S. Don’t forget... the right people are timeless. <3Want an ad free podcast experience?? Subscribe to my ad free podcast at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by: Shopify!!! Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial and start selling today at shopify.com/AdultingSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Stop Being So Hard on Yourself TODAY (00:32:56)
Why are we so f*cking mean to ourselves?This week, we’re diving deep into that nonstop voice in your head that tells you you’re not good enough, smart enough, hot enough, just... not enough. You’ll find out why it exists, how it got there, and how to finally shut it the hell up.We’re talking:· The real science behind your inner critic (yes, it’s a thing - it’s called the Default Mode Network)· Why comparing yourself to everyone on the internet is literally frying your brain (hi, Social Comparison Theory)· How to mentally separate from that toxic inner voice (Cognitive Diffusion, b*tch)· And how to give yourself the kind of love you’re always chasing from other people (Radical Self-Compassion...look it up, it’s life-changing)By the end of this, you’re going to understand that being hard on yourself isn’t some personality trait - it’s a survival habit you can unlearn. And we’re doing it together, one savage thought at a time.This episode is science, sass, and self-respect. Let’s go.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:Nutrafol - Nutrafol is offering my listeners $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol and enter the promo code ADULTING.SIMPLY POP - Sip on the juicy side of life. Find out where you can try Simply Pop at cokeurl.com/simplyPOP !Feeld Dating - Download Feeld now on the App Store or Google Play and discover if you’re into relationship anarchySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Is It Clingy…Or Just Your Love Language? (00:31:47)
Think you’re low-maintenance until they stop texting back? Can’t breathe unless you’re together 24/7? Sounds like you’ve got a ‘Quality Time’ love language. But don’t panic... needing time isn’t the problem, ignoring it is.Hi besties!! Today we’re breaking down everything you need to know about the second most common love language: Quality Time.So before you call it quits, LISTEN UP.If you’re feeling unloved, or they swear you’re “too needy,” this episode is your playbook. I’m breaking down how 'Quality Time' lovers give and receive love, so you can stop misreading the signs and start getting what you actually need.Send this to your partner (yes, I’m giving you the green light) or listen yourself if you’ve been dating someone who blows up your phone five minutes after you leave.Your clinginess? It’s not clingy.It’s love. Let’s talk about it.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Why You’re Gaining Weight, Attracting Losers, & Can’t Manifest Sh*t with The Hot High Priestess (00:53:56)
What if I told you the reason you don’t have your summer body… is because of your situationship?This week I’m joined by Sarah Perl, aka The Hot High Priestess, and we’re unpacking why your anxiety, trauma, and bad taste in men are literally showing up on your body.We go deep on:Why your nervous system is hoarding fat like it’s hoarding toxic menWhat it really takes to make a man obsessed with youHow to manifest your ex back - and when to notLaw of Detachment: stop obsessing, start attractingMasculine vs. feminine energy—and why you keep chasingHow to break the cycle of dating your daddy (again)How generational trauma lives in your hipsWhy you can’t find real love until you heal, and more!If you’ve ever cried over a man and gained five pounds after, this one’s for you :)Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:Shopify - Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial and start selling today at shopify.com/AdultingStasis - Don’t let Adderall make you feel like sh*t. Pair it with Stasis and get your focus, without the 3pm energy crash, moodiness, or restless nights. Get an extra 15% off your first purchase using my code VIOLET at checkout HERE!!!Nutrafol - Nutrafol is offering my listeners $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol and enter the promo code ADULTING.SIMPLY POP - Spill the Pop tour with Remi & Alisha from Pretty basic is coming to a city near you!! For tour information and FREE tickets, visit cokeurl.com/simplyPOPtour , but hurry! Availability is limited.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- GET HIM OBSESSED - CANCER (00:25:32)
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This June, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting a Cancer man obsessed with YOU.Get ready to learn:🔥 What makes him the ultimate romantic—and how to use it to your advantage.🔥 Foolproof ways to connect with his sensitive side and make him feel safe with you.🔥 What he craves in a relationship (and what will push him away).🔥 The signs he’s withdrawing emotionally—and how to bring him back closer than ever.🔥 How to win him back if his shell has already closed off.Whether you’re drawn to his nurturing energy, already dating him, or trying to reignite the love, this episode will give you the ultimate guide to getting him to fall in love. So hit play now and make this June all about mastering the heart of the zodiac’s most caring sign!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- 30 Questions to Ask Yourself to Find Love (00:44:41)
You’re not single because you’re broken—maybe you’re just asking the wrong questions.In this deeply personal and hilariously honest solo episode, I share 30 questions you need to ask yourself if you’re serious about finding real love—not the situationship, not the trauma-bond, not the 2-week high followed by ghosting. We're talking love that lasts.I also open up for the first time about being deaf—how it’s made me feel small, different, and deeply afraid of being pitied… and how I moved past it.This is the episode where we stop waiting to be "healed enough" for love—and finally figure out what we actually want and deserve.Tune in if:You keep attracting the same wrong person in a different fontYou’re overthinking love to deathYou’re ready to be loved without fixing every flaw firstListen ‘til the end for the story that might just change how you see yourself—and love—forever.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:Adults Show - Watch FX’s Adults OUT NOW on FX. All Episodes Streaming on Hulu.Stasis - Don’t let Adderall make you feel like sh*t. Pair it with Stasis and get your focus, without the 3pm energy crash, moodiness, or restless nights. Get an extra 15% off your first purchase using my code VIOLET at checkout HERE!!!Feeld Dating - Download Feeld now on the App Store or Google Play and discover if you’re into relationship anarchySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- Cheating, Control & the Downfall of Wizard Liz with MJ Grey (01:05:58)
Today I’m joined by viral creator MJ Gray to break down everything from the Wizard Liz drama, delusional men who want “traditional women” but can’t even lead… to why the 50/50 dating fantasy is officially dead. We’re talking cheating, bill-paying boyfriends, men who secretly resent powerful women, and why you should think twice who you have a baby with.If you’ve ever wondered why the guy who chases you ends up trying to humble you, why some friends feel like emotional leeches, or why men always “circle back” after destroying everything—this episode is your new bible. And be sure to tune in to the last 10 min since I drop a final update on Wizard Liz that might change the way you see her forever.Follow MJ Grey TikTok here :)Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:Adults Show - Watch FX’s Adults OUT NOW on FX. All Episodes Streaming on Hulu.Nutrafol - Nutrafol is offering my listeners $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol and enter the promo code ADULTING.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- I Thought About Him… Then He Appeared. (00:41:56)
One random act of kindness, a stranger on the freeway, and a moment that changed everything.Listen to this to restore your faith in humanity and discover how a split-second decision can reveal the goodness still left in the worldWanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:Stasis - Don’t let Adderall make you feel like sh*t. Pair it with Stasis and get your focus, without the 3pm energy crash, moodiness, or restless nights. Get an extra 15% off your first purchase using my code VIOLET at checkout! https://takestasis.com/VIOLETMaterialists Movie - Movie comes out June 13! Get your tickets HEREAdults Show - Watch FX’s Adults OUT NOW on FX. All Episodes Streaming on Hulu.Air Doctor - Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code ADULTING to get UP TO $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty—an $84 value, free! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- So Your Mum’s a Narcissist? Let’s Talk (01:06:13)
Welcome back to Benson Book Club! Today we’re diving into Chapter 4 of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson—aka the one that explains why you can’t trust, love, or text back without spiraling.Think your mom’s a narcissist? You might be onto something. Convinced your dad’s emotional unavailability ruined your love life? You’re not wrong. This episode is your Roman Empire. If you’ve ever felt unloved, emotionally starved, or like you sabotage every relationship—this might explain why. Let’s get into the trauma tea.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
- GET HIM OBSESSED - GEMINI (00:17:30)
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This May, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to making a Gemini man obsessed with YOU.Get ready to uncover:🔥 The secrets behind his charm and dual nature—and how to make them work in your favor.🔥 Proven tips to spark his curiosity and keep him endlessly intrigued by you.🔥 What excites him most in a relationship (and what will make him lose interest).🔥 The telltale signs he’s getting bored—and how to pull him back in.🔥 How to win him back if he’s already moved on to the next big thing.Whether you’re drawn to his wit and energy, already dating him, or trying to rekindle the flame, this episode will teach you how to keep a Gemini man obsessed with you.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.