BDSM Reimagined
Helse(ANNOUNCMENT: Season 5, with Indy, is officially in the making) BDSM Reimagined takes a deep look into the world of kink. Follow along as both a psychologist and an experienced practitioner walk through the world of adventurous play. We would like remind listeners that this show contains explicit sexual references so it is only suitable for adults. We hope you enjoy our podcast. You can contact via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Upbeat: License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
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- Findom.. A Reality Sets In | S05E08 (01:04:57)
Indy revisits her brief experiment with financial domination, explaining that her motivation came from the frustration of her BDSM encounters feeling purely transactional and one-sided. Charging money was an attempt to reclaim power and ensure she received something tangible in an exchange where she often felt used.However, her single paid experience stirred up deep moral and personal conflicts. She worried about the potential harm she could be causing the submissive by reinforcing a potentially addictive kink. She was equally concerned about the negative impact on her own character, fearing it would foster entitlement, feed her ego, and change her motivations for the worse. Based on this strong intuitive reaction, she has firmly decided not to pursue the findom path. Instead, she is focusing on her broader journey of integrating her alpha energy with a sense of integrity and wisdom, aiming to use her inherent dominance in a constructive, rather than exploitative, way.Michael offers a more detailed perspective from his longer experience with paid BDSM, making a crucial distinction between escorting and findom. He defines escorting as a service with a set price where money facilitates a scene. In contrast, he describes findom as a dynamic where the ongoing, manipulative exchange of money is the core sexual act, driven by an intense, euphoric rush.He expresses deep ambivalence about being a financial dominant. While he finds it highly arousing, he feels morally conflicted, constantly questioning what behaviour he is enabling in his subs. He admits the experience has an addictive quality and has led him to feel disconnected from authentic, non-performative intimacy. He frames this internal struggle using archetypes: his findom persona is the "Shadow Magician" who manipulates and exploits, while his true aspiration is to become "The Elder," a figure of wisdom. He feels trapped in the shadow, theorising that findom serves as a modern ritual for men seeking a sense of belonging in a world of fractured masculine identity, where they literally "pay to belong."Contact us via email:bdsmreimagined@gmail.comMusic from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTHLicense code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Why Do I Worship Straight Men? | S0507 (00:45:31)
Michael (01:10) Michael delves into the psychological origins of his submissive side, particularly his attraction to straight men. He explains the concept of a "straight hierarchy" within some gay BDSM dynamics, where straight men are placed at the pinnacle of desire. He traces his own connection to this hierarchy back to his adolescence, where his primary male attachments were formed through being bullied by his straight brother and peers at school.His key realisation is that when he experiences an "attachment injury" in his present life—such as feeling rejected or missing an ex—he subconsciously retreats to the familiar and predictable power dynamics of his youth. Seeking out straight men to humiliate him is a way to return to a simplistic and unconflicted form of bonding where he understands his place, providing a strange sense of security and belonging in moments of emotional pain.Indy (25:45)Indy provides updates on several fronts. She recounts a recent interaction with a highly interested submissive who abruptly ghosted her after an online session. This experience reinforces her theory that for many submissives, interest evaporates after orgasm, possibly due to a shame response.In a more positive and surreal turn of events, she discovers that a submissive she knows has, by sheer coincidence, moved into the house directly across the street. This presents an unexpected opportunity to explore the deeper, companion-style BDSM connection she has been seeking. Finally, she expresses her intense frustration with men on conventional dating apps who repeatedly ignore her boundaries and try to sexualise conversations before meeting. In response, she has adopted a new strategy of creating a completely "vanilla-ised" dating profile, removing any mention of kink or sex to attract more respectful initial connections.Contact us via email:bdsmreimagined@gmail.comMusic from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTHLicense code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Let's Talk More About Findom | S05E06 (00:30:18)
In this episode, Indy grapples with her decision to start charging for her dominant services, a shift prompted by the realisation that men have been viewing her sessions as "freebies." While her first paid encounter feels powerful, it also brings a profound sense of moral unease. She questions the ethics of financial domination and worries about the potential for it to corrupt her personality, fearing she might become arrogant or narcissistic. Her exploration of this new path seems to be driven by a place of resentment and a feeling of having been used in the past.Michael offers a contrasting, more experienced viewpoint. He empathises with Indy's moral conflict but frames his own involvement in financial domination as a positive "alpha trajectory"—a valid exploration of a confident part of himself. He counters the fear of negative personal change by explaining that this persona is just one integrated facet of his already well-rounded identity, kept in check by his career, friendships, and therapy. For Michael, charging is a practical tool for managing demand and maintaining healthy boundaries, presenting the findom world as a more direct and rewarding alternative to the frustrations of conventional dating.Contact us via email:bdsmreimagined@gmail.comMusic from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTHLicense code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Should I become a findom? | S05E05 (00:40:33)
(00:10) IndyIndy shares details of a date with a woman—a psychologist with a similar background to her own. The date provides a profound sense of relief and safety for Indy, leading to a powerful realisation: her dominant persona, which involves emasculating men, is actually tied to a long-repressed attraction to women. This new path feels liberating, yet she is still apprehensive about how it might affect her family relationships.(10:18) A recent encounter with a submissive has also changed Indy's perspective on her role as a dominant. She's realised that many of her subs see her sessions as "freebies," which has prompted her to consider charging for her services.(32:25) Michael Meanwhile, Michael reveals a long-term proposal from his first-ever submissive, who wants to give Michael financial control over his life. This raises questions about responsibility, commitment, and how this new "alpha trajectory" will affect his ability to find a partner.Contact us via email:bdsmreimagined@gmail.comMusic from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTHLicense code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- I was scammed.. again | S05E04 (00:34:05)
(00:10) Michael Michael shares a devastating story of being scammed again, this time by a "criminal" he was pursuing. The betrayal forces him to confront a toxic pattern in his life and consider a new, safer path forward.He finds solace in his dominant persona, a "Tyler Durden" character that allows him to feel powerful and break free from society's rules. This sense of control is intoxicating, and he describes a recent session where he revealed in total dominance over a submissive.(24:00) Indy Indy connects with this feeling of power, but for her, it comes from the thrill of denial. She realizes that her dominant style, which focuses on emasculating men, is tied to a deeper, long-unacknowledged truth about her own sexuality. Her desire to strap men up in chastity and deny them sex leads to a powerful realization: she wants to pursue relationships with women.As she attempts to navigate this new journey, she is met with the same frustrations and logistical challenges that have plagued her in the past. Can Indy find a way to balance her newfound path with her dominant side, or will she be forced to choose?Contact us via email:bdsmreimagined@gmail.comMusic from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTHLicense code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- I was scammed... | S05E03 (00:27:20)
(00:10) Michael Michael recounts an online encounter where a seemingly genuine connection turned out to be an elaborate scam. His story forces him to confront his deeper insecurities about his fetish, leaving him to question if the price of his desire is too high.(13:20) Indy Meanwhile, Indy shares her own frustrating experiences navigating the online dating world. After a disappointing session with an ex-rugby player, she ventures onto dating apps with a "kink friendly" disclaimer, only to be met with a series of men who blur boundaries and waste her time. Her encounters leave her feeling jaded and questioning whether authentic connection is even possible in this digital landscape.Contact us via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.comMusic from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTHLicense code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- What happens when a session works... and when it doesn't? | S05E02 (00:36:39)
(01:35) IndyIndy describes a recent high, a period where she felt confident and desired by multiple men. One man, in particular, a tall, fit, and successful ex-rugby player, seemed to embody everything she was looking for in a submissive. He was eager to please, memorising her rules and even getting a haircut before their anticipated meeting. The connection felt so promising that Indy's mind began to race with possibilities for a future with him, causing her to feel a rare sense of nervousness and obsession while planning their first session.However, after a tense and charged encounter, the session comes to an abrupt and unexpected halt... (21:40) MichaelMeanwhile, Michael shares a completely different story, basking in the glow of what he claims was his "best ever session." He describes the intoxicating feeling of being in a "Dom space," a persona that gives him a new sense of confidence in his daily life. His session with a deeply repressed submissive was so successful that he felt it was a "sacred" experience, a perfect balance of verbal degradation and compassionate affection.Contact us via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.comMusic from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTHLicense code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- And so Season 5 begins...! | S0501 (00:47:20)
Indy's Update (00:25)The episode begins with Indy discussing her confident return to her dominant role after a long break. She details her highly theatrical and psychologically-driven process for meeting new submissives, which involves strict rules, suspense, humiliation, and denial. She also reflects on lessons learned from past sessions, including the importance of aftercare and understanding a partner's specific expectations.Michael's Update (31:37)The focus then switches to Michael, who shares his journey into a dominant 'bully' persona. He discusses the challenge of integrating his own submissive kinks (like trainer worship) into his dominant scenes. A key part of his update is the psychological role of a dominant, specifically using validating language like "This is your truest self" to release a submissive's shame and create a safe, transformative space.Contact us via email:bdsmreimagined@gmail.comMusic from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTHLicense code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Season 5 Trailer (00:02:47)
For adult listening only. Season 5: Release on August 21st, 2025.Join Indy and Michael as they explore their BDSM journey in the day-to-day. We hope you enjoy our podcast. Contact us via email:bdsmreimagined@gmail.comMusic from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTHLicense code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: Goodbye Sex Work and Hello Season 5! | 20 (00:09:19)
In this episode, Michael announces Season 5! He also quickly checks in about some recent decisions around his sex working life...Contact via email:bdsmreimagined@gmail.comMusic from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTHLicense code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: Things I Have Learned Over The Past Few Years (Pt.2: As a Dom) | 19 (00:20:13)
Join Michael as he looks back over the past few years and share some of his learning of being a dom. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: Things I Have Learned Over The Past Few Years (Pt.1) | 18 (00:24:50)
01:20 Kink is Wonderful 03:49 Sexuality Is Very Fluid: It's Ok To Not Know Or Understand Your Sexuality/Kinks Just Yet 06:58 Communication is Key 09:29 When Simple Needs Are Not Met, Things Can Get Very Complicated 13:38 Power Centred Kink is Informed By Trauma (a work in progress) 17:26 Sensory Centred Kink is Neurologically Based 18:49 I Do Believe in the Narrative Idea of Dom/sub 21:32 I Am Pretty Clear Where My Kink Originates From 24:02 My Kinks Aren't As Urgent Anymore Join Michael as he looks back over the past few years and share some of his learning. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: Why We Submit (from Fight Club to Findom) | 17 (00:37:18)
In one of his favourite and probably most important episodes, Michael uses the video essay "How Fight Club Turns Men into Space Monkeys" by the YouTube channel "Like Stories of Old", to discuss how it parallels the dynamics of dominance and submission, particularly the appeal of the "unconflicted" alpha figure. Michael reflects on human instincts around hierarchy, the yearning for role models, and how individuals surrender their individuality in the pursuit of symbolic immortality. He emphasises the importance of critically examining the motivations behind following dominant figures and how these connections offer a sense of meaning and escape from existential fears. Watch the video NOW: Like Stories Of Old: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymgoem4v4u4&t=66s Please like, comment and subscribe to his channel. Featuring; ‘Where Is My Mind’ cover by Alex Voulgaris (Follow Alex at @alexvgr) ‘Where Is My Mind’ cover by Gattobus Additional Music: Skyler Lawson – Eclater Luke Atencio – Projections Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: I knew this would happen.. (Episode 15 update) | 16 (00:19:54)
In this episode, Michael updates listeners on his recent experiences with dating and navigating the complexities of financial domination (fandom). He shares reflections on a fragile connection he formed with someone he met, noting the emotional highs and lows of the dynamic. The episode delves into the struggles of finding authentic connections in the kink and dating scenes, as well as the psychological aspects behind his desires. Michael also touches on the impact of therapy and his inner child work, highlighting the intricate layers of guilt, power, and control that shape his experiences. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: I'm Angry And A Little Scared | 15 (00:27:17)
In this episode, Michael talks about his recent break up and where that has led him. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: I asked Phil for help! (@masterslavelifestylepodcast) | 14 (00:58:04)
In this episode, Michael contacts Phil from Master Slave Lifestyle to see if he could help some of the shame he holds around his kink. Phil uses his coaching skills to give solid advice that would be helpful for anyone in a similar situation. Website: masterslavelifestyle.com Podcast: @masterslavelifestylepodcast Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: Is My Sexual Identity Changing?! & Inner Child Work (pt4) | 13 (00:16:29)
In this episode, Michael discuss how meeting someone has potentially changed his sexual identity. However, it can't be that easy... can it? He also gives a brief update on his inner child work and how this may have played a part. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: My Chav Fantasy Finally Came True! (almost) | 12 (00:19:41)
In this episode, Michael shares his encounter with his deepest fantasy about chavs. However, there is an unexpected twist to the story... Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: My Findom Story (@masterslavelifestylepodcast) | 11 (00:57:16)
I talk with Phil, the creator of the Master Slave Lifestyle website and podcast (masterslavelifestyle.com), about my journey into and out of Findom. This episode premiered on his podcast Jan 2024, recorded late 2023.
- Meeting Michael: It's Time To Say Goodbye To Sex Work :) | 10 (00:09:52)
In this episode, Michael shares his personal journey of deciding to stop being a sex worker. He talks about how he started in the industry, the enjoyment and challenges it brought, and why he chose to leave. Michael highlights the conflict between his online persona and his true self, the demands of the job, and its impact on his relationships and personal growth. He sees this change as a new beginning to explore his interests, form deeper connections, and live more in the moment. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: My Kink Shame | 09 (00:07:38)
Amendment: Around 6 minutes, I state that shame is noted to be a motivator for persons who seek sex workers and persons who are involved with chemsex. This is untrue. This is only the case if the behaviour is ego syntonic/compulsive in the subjective experience of the individual; otherwise, enjoy! :) In this short yet deeply personal episode, we embark on a candid journey through Michael's latest therapeutic explorations, focusing on the intricate relationship between kink, shame, and mental health. Michael bravely shares his evolving understanding of how deeply-rooted shame, stemming from childhood, has shaped his perceptions of intimacy, sexuality, and self-worth. With raw honesty, he discusses the challenging process of his shame—recognising the harmful belief that he is fundamentally flawed. As Michael delves into the complexities of his kink and sexual desires, he confronts the internalised stigma and the daunting task of reconciling his interests with societal norms. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: Inner Child (pt3) & Challenging My Beliefs | 08 (00:22:18)
In this episode, Michael updates us on his experiences with escorting. He expresses a desire to minimise digital engagement and return to simpler pleasures as part of a digital detox. He then delves into his kink journey, continuing to talk about working with his therapist to understand his needs in relationships, intimacy, and sex, highlighting his struggles with being submissive and the fear of narrowing his sexual desires. He explores the root of these issues through inner child work, addressing beliefs formed in childhood about submission and worthiness. Michael explores how his narrative touches on the conflict between his desire for dominance and submission, the influence of childhood experiences on his sexual behaviour, and his efforts to balance his kink interests with personal growth and self-understanding. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: Break Up, Escorting, and The Dark Side of Kink | 07 (00:13:55)
In this episode Michael opens up about the complexities of navigating a recent breakup and how it has impacted his exploration of intimacy and kink. He also discusses the exciting yet challenging world of escorting, sharing insights into his new venture and the deeper motivations behind it. Michael also reflects on the difficulties of satisfying his own kinks and the emotional toll it takes. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: Inner Child (pt 2), Sex Work, and Relationships! | 06 (00:15:43)
In this episode, Michael gives an update on his therapeutic work with his inner child. He talks about feeling a sense of confidence from a previous session with the therapist but also still finding it hard to identify his needs and wants in the bedroom. He also announces two new social accounts: one for his kink and one for possible sex work. He speaks about his fears around addiction and also wonders how to tell people he dates about... all this. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ
- Meeting Michael: Meeting RECON (Antoin) | 05 (00:32:33)
To change things up, Michael gets intimate with the face of the fetish platform Recon. Antoin, also known as @ajfs71, opens up for a personal and revealing tell-all. Contact me via email: bdsmreimagined@gmail.com Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): License code: GNHL82KTDKW6KBTH License code: UZ3QGMJGYWGTEZYZ