Addict's Messy Marriage
FaktaHelseThese are the learnings of a recovering addict and what goes on in his life with his spouse and family. Reflecting on these happenings in order to make healthy changes. In doing so, the hope is that this podcast allows others to reflect on these topics in their own lives and make healthy changes as well. The belief is that when we try to make each day better than the day before it, by improving ourselves, our lives with our spouse and family will be much more fulfilling. https://addictsmessymarriage.libsyn.com/site Twitter: @AddictMessy E-mail: Addictsmessymarriage@gmail.com Please e-mail if you have any suggested topics or comments.
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- Priorities (00:19:46)
Please walk with me as I reflect on my priorities and if the way I spend my time matches my priorities.
- Contentment, Patience & the Lack of Control (00:20:02)
Please walk with me as I explore the positive and negative of work disappointments and the balance in life to be content with where I am but patient with what God has for the future. Thanks for listening!
- 20 Years of Marriage (00:25:13)
I am excited to talk about and share with you our experiences after 20 years of marriage. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Walk with me as we explore the path that has brought us to 20 years of marriage and how our marriage is far better now than we ever thought possible.
- The Victorious Life (00:23:13)
I'm glad to be back recording podcasts again. Thank you to my wife who has encouraged me to keep going. Walk with me as I talk about a book called How to Live the Victorious Life by an Unknown Christian and how it has impacted my life. Listen as I talk about my pride and how an unwillingness to die to myself has prevented me from stepping into the promises God has for me.
- Preparing for Life (00:22:39)
It took me a long time in life to recognize when to fight my battles, and it is not in the moment but long before that in the preparation. I would much rather fight battles around spiritual, physical and emotional disciplines than fight battles in the moment by trying to say the right thing, not respond selfishly, and not throw in the towel and relapse. Walk with me as I explore the progress I have made and still need to make in preparing for life.
- Dangers of External Validation (00:17:58)
After the last episode on fear versus authenticity, it felt like more was here to unpack. I started to realize these fears that were covering up my authenticity were causing me to feel pride and to seek external validation. Walk with me as I explore the dangers of external validation.
- Authenticity vs. Fear (00:20:46)
I have noticed that my fear and insecurities steal my authenticity. Instead of coming across humble and authentic, often times I come across as having something to prove. Walk with me as I explore fear vs authenticity in my life.
- The Power of Thoughts and Beliefs (00:26:31)
Have you ever wondered what happened to the day? Why did it end badly? Why are the days not getting better? Walk with me as I explore the power of thoughts and beliefs and how I'm looking to change this into a positive for me. Resources mentioned in the podcast: Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown Living Life Backward: How Ecclesiastes Teaches Us to Live in Light of the End by David Gibson 208. PERSPECTIVE, HAPPINESS & SOCIAL FRICTION WITH DR. RANGAN CHATTERJEE (REPLAY) https://gregmckeown.com/podcast/episode/2perspective-happiness-social-friction-with-dr-rangan-chatterjee/
- Why We Neglect Our Future Self (00:20:03)
Have you wondered why we do not do the things that will benefit our future selves now? Why do we not exercise or eat right or do something for others? Listen as I walk through a recent learning and how that has shown up in my life. Here is the link to the TED radio hour podcast: https://www.npr.org/transcripts/1182387784
- Surrender (00:23:53)
- Nuances of Control (00:24:55)
- The Character Defect of Passivity (00:21:44)
Passivity can seem like such a benign character defect in the short term but it turns into a big one over time. Walk with me as I explore passivity in my life and in a recent example involving my neighbors.
- Inspite of Circumstances (00:20:43)
Often circumstances are outside of my control, and people's actions are always outside my control. How I respond to circumstances and people's actions dictates my quality of life. Walk with me as I explore the concept of in spite of my circumstances as I look at recent circumstances in my life.
- Turning the World Upside Down (00:21:05)
Have you ever realized that you think of things that could be positive or negative in life in a negative way? I'm learning to reframe things into positive realities. Walk with me as I explore humility, rejection, and failure to reframe these into positive realities that work for me.
- Introducing M the Spouse (00:22:53)
I feel so honored to have my wife join me on this podcast. She is such a wonderful and insightful person, and I am so glad that you will get to meet her. I hope this will be the beginning of many podcasts that we do together. We share a bit of our story and some things we learned along the way. Please join us and see if you relate to our struggles in this journey.
- Pause and Plan (00:21:33)
Have you ever wondered how self-control or willpower works in the brain? I find it fascinating to see God's design and how He uses his design to influence our everyday actions. Addiction hijacked our natural pause and plan response and exchanged it for a constant fight or flight response. I have seen God changing this in my life, especially over the last year, where I am finding myself pausing rather than getting amped up when life happens. Walk with me as I explore the science behind what happens in the brain when we activate self-control/willpower. Material referenced in this podcast: The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D.
- Connecting the Dots (00:23:55)
I spoke at a retreat this past weekend and have been thinking about all of the information I have learned about the brain. The brain is so amazing. It is also amazing how we have the power to strengthen our brain through activities and techniques. Walk with me as I connect the dots between what I have learned about my brain and what I can do to improve my brain.
- What really is dopamine (00:20:43)
Have you ever wondered why you do the things you do? Walk with me as I explore dopamine and how it causes my brain to desire things that are ultimately detrimental to the people around me and me.
- The Church in Comparison to God (00:27:52)
- Diamonds are made from pressure (00:23:23)
I have spent so much of my life running and escaping from struggles at the expense of myself and those around me. Walk with me as I explore the balance in life between struggles and enjoyable times. The pressures of life can lead to amazing things if I let them.
- What if you were going to die tomorrow (00:24:37)
I just went to the funeral of a neighbor who died at the age of 47 which is only five years older than me. What if I was in her shoes? How would I live differently now? Walk with me as I explore what is important in life.
- Humility vs. Humiliation (00:29:20)
Have you noticed that when you make a mistake or receive feedback from someone, the first response is being angry or defensive? Walk with me as I describe my learnings and our choices in these situations. Am I going to choose humility or humiliation?
- Grieve well, Live well (00:23:10)
Loss happens to us all the time and grieving loss is an essential part of life. This is not just loss of a love one, but loss of a childhood, loss of a relationship or loss due to failing to be the parent I should have been. Walk with me as I continue to learn the power of grieving well to live well.
- The Drop Off (00:22:14)
Why do I neglect to think about or plan for the drop off after a stressful or enjoyable situation? How many times have I been blind sided by what happens after those experiences? Walk with me as I explore the drop off and what I can do better in the future.
- Reflection (00:25:50)
Self-reflection can be a powerful tool in recovery and life. Walk with me as I reflect on the good and bad of the last three weeks. Remembering it is always progress over perfection.