Ask Alice
SamfunnFor unge lyttereReligion og åndelighetRaising Kids is hard. Raising Godly kids is harder. Ask Alice is hosted by licensed professional counselor, Alice Churnock who answers questions from concerned parents by incorporating therapeutic techniques and Christian values. Ask Alice is a part of the Rooted Family of Podcasts.
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- Introducing: Asian American Youth Ministry Roundtable (00:03:28)
Rooted introduces a new podcast focused on youth ministry in an Asian American context. It features a rotating panel of youth ministers who will talk about issues affecting Asian American youth and anyone ministering to them, whether in the home or in the church. This episode is a sample of what you will hear. The first full episode is available now at RootedMinistry.com/Podcasts. Or subscribe to the Asian American Youth Ministry Roundtable wherever you listen to podcasts. Bios of PanelistsDorothy Lau Dorothy is the youth director at the Chinese Bible Church of Maryland (Rockville, MD) in the Washington D.C. metropolitan. She is passionate to serve the Lord through discipleship, musical worship, administration, and multimedia. Dorothy is a massive foodie, enjoys cooking for loved ones, and delights in trips to her home city of Chicago.Huey Lee Huey Lee has been serving the local church in the youth ministry context for over 15 years, and holds a Masters of Divinity from Biblical Theological Seminary. He currently serves as a Pastor of Youth Ministry at Christ Central Presbyterian Church in Centreville, VA. He is married to his beautiful wife, Alice, and they are parents to 4 sons: Matthew, Ethan, Christian, and Lucas. He loves reading, Korean food, a good cup of coffee, and the growing pains that come with learning to play golf.Justin WongJustin serves as the Pastor of Youth at Chinese Baptist Church in Houston, Texas. He has worked with students, parents, and families for the past 23 years. He graduated from Houston Baptist University with a biology degree and later received his Masters of Divinity and Doctor of Ministry from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is currently finishing his Masters of Theology and Doctorate of Education from Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is married Tina and they have two girls, Ella and Mia.Terrence ShayTerrence serves as the Family Pastor at First Chinese Baptist Church, Walnut, located in Los Angeles County with the largest Asian population in the US. He has grown up in the immigrant church and believes unashamedly in its role to fulfill Jesus’ call to make disciples across all cultures and generations. He is gladly married to Regina and forever growing as a father of three children from middle school to college. He will go out of his way to cheer on LA sports (Lakers, Dodgers, UCLA Bruins) and to engage in a meaningful conversation.
- Ask Alice: Celebrating Greatest Hits from Fifty Episodes (00:55:58)
Join licensed counselor (and boy mom) Alice Churnock for the 50th episode of Ask Alice. Alice and guest Anna Meade Harris talk about their favorite- and most helpful- episodes. You'll want to listen all the way through for an exciting announcement at the end!"I appreciated hearing, especially from someone in education, who was adamant about letting kids fail."Resources:Join us for Rooted 2024 in Dallas October 24-26!Follow us @rootedministryPurchase Anxiety: Finding the Better Story by Liz Edrington today!Sissy Goff on Mothers, Daughters, and Female Friendships What Teens Hear When Parents Talk, with author David ThomasSilver Linings in the Midst of a PandemicDivorce and Coparenting During the Holidays – Practical Ways to Help Kids Transition Between Homes and Traditions Let’s Talk About Pornography with Tal PrinceHeather Holleman on Lunchroom Rejection and Acceptance in ChristHow to hold Christian Values in a Public Education Setting, with Dr. Dicky BarlowFathers Raising Daughters- A Father’s Day Interview With Dr. Langston Haygood
- Helping Your Child Navigate Transitions with Kaila Thomas (00:40:37)
“Transition is good and it’s right. And it may feel uncomfortable because it’s unknown, but that’s exactly how we were made to experience that transition and throughout all of our transitions, we have a God that doesn’t change.”In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice sits down with Kaila Thomas, a Licensed Master Social Worker, to discuss how parents can help their children navigate transitions, both big and small. Alice and Kaila discuss the most common transitions children face, how parents can engage with their child’s emotions regarding transitions, practical tips for helping your child through a transition, and much more. As Summer ends and we make the transition to a new school year, parents will not want to miss this informative and grace-filled conversation. Show Notes: Kaila Thomas is a Licensed Master Social Worker practicing on Galveston Island, a barrier island off the coast of Texas. She works as a school-based therapist at an elementary school. Kaila graduated from Baylor University with both a Bachelor and Master of Social Work. Kaila enjoys running, visiting friends and family, and going to concerts.Check out Kaila’s articles on the Rooted blog! Order Anxiety: Finding the Better Story by Liz Edrington today!Interested in learning more about gospel-centered parenting? Join us for the 2023 Rooted Conference in Nashville, TN November 2-4. Follow @therootedministry on Social Media!
- Heather Holleman on Lunchroom Rejection and Acceptance in Christ (00:44:42)
In this episode, Alice interviews best-selling author and speaker, Heather Holleman on her upcoming fictional book for tweens, This Seat's Saved. Heather and Alice discuss the feeling of lunchroom rejection that commonly occurs in middle school, and how to encourage our kids with the truth that they already have a seat at the table with Christ. Alice discusses the emerging diagnosis, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, and explains its common characteristics. Parents will be encouraged to see how the gospel is good news for both parents and teenagers who struggle with the hurt of rejection. Dr. Heather Holleman is an associate teaching professor at Penn State, speaker, and author. She has written eight books, including the bestseller Seated With Christ: Living Freely in a Culture of Comparison.Heather also serves with Faculty Commons in the professor and graduate student ministry of Cru. She has two daughters and three cats, and she blogs daily at www.heatherholleman.com. When she's not writing or teaching, Heather is growing a plum orchard, looking for turtles in the woods, or gathering with friends for dinner and a movie.References:Rejection sensitive dysphoria definition from Cleveland clinicThis Seat’s Saved by Heather Holleman is out on June 6th and is available for pre-order now.“Seated With Christ: Living Freely in a Culture of Comparison” by Heather Holleman
- Adolescent Anxiety: Finding a Better Story with Liz Edrington (00:35:07)
In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews author and mental health counselor, Liz Edrington on her 31-day teen devotional: Anxiety: Finding the Better Story. Listen in as these two experts in teenage anxiety discuss common misconceptions of anxiety, how to spot patterns of anxious behavior in your child, and how to walk with a child or teenager who is struggling with anxiety. Using her own story with anxiety, Liz invites us to consider how Jesus invites both us and our children into wholeness in the face of anxiety. Resources:Pre-order Anxiety: Finding the Better Story by Liz Edrington today! Subscribe to Ask Alice and check out all the other Rooted podcasts!Follow @therootedministry on Instagram!Check out our YouTube Channel!
- How to hold Christian Values in a Public Education Setting, with Dr. Dicky Barlow (00:46:25)
In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews longtime superintendent and former principal, Dr. Dicky Barlow, on being a Christian in public education. Dr. Barlow speaks as both an administrator and as a Christian parent. He understands the concerns parents have with the public school system, yet he underscores the excitement of having a child growing up in the age of accessible technology. He addresses ways that parents can partner with teachers so that their values systems are more aligned, as well as the standards to which he holds the teachers in his school system. Dicky Barlow serves as the superintendent of a public school system in Alabama. Dr. Barlow earned his doctorate at Samford University.Resources:Subscribe to Ask Alice! Follow @therootedministry on Instagram Sign up to join us for our 2023 conference in Nashville, TN! Family Discussion Questions by Dr. Barlow
- Talking to Your Teenager about Underage Drinking (00:49:22)
In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews mom Suzanne Jones on how she addresses drinking with her own teenage children. As someone who has been sober for years, Suzanne candidly and wisely offers insight to teenage drinking after being in the depths herself. She and Alice discuss the driving factors of underaged drinking, as well as warning signs for parents to look for. Their conversation includes practical methods for parents to openly discuss the dangers and consequences of drinking and ways to provide teenagers with in-the-moment excuses when they are offered alcohol. Suzanne encourages parents to offer grace without shame while still enforcing consequences for illegal behavior. You’ll learn that there is hope for the teenager who drinks to fit in, escape, or numb— all found in Jesus. Resources:Suzanne Jones is a jewelry designer based in Birmingham, Alabama. She and her husband have four children, and she loves sharing her experience of walking away from alcohol in early 2000’s and the transformation of her life and marriage. Subscribe to Ask Alice! Follow @therootedministry on Instagram Sign up to join us for our 2023 conference in Nashville, TN! Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services AdministrationNational Center on Substance Abuse and Child WelfareTo Drink or Not to Drink: Is That Really the Question? By Liz Edrington Underage Drinking: Just Say YES! (Sort Of) by Cameron Cole Sharon Hersh on the Anatomy of Addiction
- Safeguarding our Kids (00:35:36)
In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews counselor and author, Julie Lowe about her newest book, SafeGuards: Shielding Our Homes and Equipping our Kids. Julie teaches parents how to guide our children into discerning the behavior of another, not merely evaluating their character. She and Alice detail their thoughts about spend-the-night parties, and the better alternative to 'stranger danger.' Julie concludes with practical role-playing conversations to guide critical thinking in our children, as well as compassionately addressing those parents who have already experienced unsafe people in their children's lives.Resources:Safe Guards: Shielding Our Homes and Equipping our Kids by Julie LoweRooted Reservoir
- Sissy Goff on Mothers, Daughters, and Female Friendships (00:44:45)
For our daughters, relationships with other women are often the most important aspect of their lives. In this new year's episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews author, speaker and counselor, Sissy Goff, on how to nurture healthy relationships between moms and daughters, and daughters with friends. She provides practical tips on deescalating emotionally intense conflicts, as well as addressing the balance between being a mom and being a friend to your daughter. Sissy addresses the growing sense of anxiety that both moms and daughters experience in our pre- and post-Covid world. She also discusses the change that social media has brought to adolescent relationships and how to help our daughters identify unhealthy friendships.Resources: The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too by Sissy Goff Lpc-Mhsp MEd Lpc-MhspRaising Worry-Free Girls: Helping Your Daughter Feel Braver, Stronger, and Smarter in an Anxious World by Sissy Goff and Carlos Whittaker Brave: A Teen Girl's Guide to Beating Worry and Anxiety by Sissy GoffBraver, Stronger, Smarter: A Girl’s Guide to Overcoming Worry & Anxiety by Sissy Goff and Alena Pitts Are My Kids on Track?: The 12 Emotional, Social, and Spiritual Milestones Your Child Needs to Reach by Sissy Goff, Melissa Trevathan MRE, et al. www.raisingboysandgirls.com
- Divorce and Coparenting During the Holidays: Practical Ways to Help Kids Transition Between Homes and Traditions (00:42:08)
For those families dealing with divorce, the holidays bring an extra layer of complexity. In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews Divorce and Family Mediation and Licensed Marriage and Family therapist, Sara Hadgraft, on how to help both parents and children enjoy the Christmas season - even if it looks different from years past. She addresses visitation schedules and gift giving, as well as providing parents with the language to address both the emotional and spiritual questions about divorce that may arise as children adjust to a new normal.Resources:www.sparrowcounsel.comCoparent Dilemmas podcast hosted by Diane DierksBIFF for CoParent Communication: Your Guide to Difficult Texts, Emails, and Social Media Posts (Conflict Communication Series, 3) by Bill Eddy, Annette Burns, et al.Dinosaurs Divorce (Dino Tales: Life Guides for Families) by Marc Brown and Laurie Krasny BrownTwo Homes by Claire Masurel My 2 Homes: A Game to Help Kids Understand and Accept Divorce manufactured by Childswork/Childsplay
- Save Stuffing for the Turkey: Helping Kids Manage Holiday Foods (00:44:28)
With the season of food and fullness upon us, in this episode of Ask Alice, she interviews Registered Dietitian and Professor, Dr. Melissa Powell, on ways that parents can help kids - and themselves - survive the season of sweets and stuffed. She explains the notion of mindfulness and intuitive eating, as opposed to the "anything goes" or "forbidden fruit" mentality. While Alice approaches the emotional component of holiday foods, Melissa provides insight on balancing food choices. She also encourages the notion of hospitality by teaching kids a spirit of gratitude and appreciating foods from other cultures and families.Resources:Children Just Like Me: A New Celebration of Children Around the World by DKThe Harvard Nutrition Source Melissa-Powell [at] utc.eduBiblical Wisdom for Teenagers' Eating Habits by Melissa Powell
- Bring It On Home: Everyday Ways to Incorporate the Gospel at Home with Younger Kids (00:50:36)
While this episode of Ask Alice is geared toward younger children, the wisdom that her guest, Joel Busby, brings is applicable to kids of all ages. Alice and Joel discuss conveying the Gospel through everything from our beautiful world to discipline to allowing kids to appreciate silence. In his thoughtful and kind manner, Joel tackles the tough questions kids often ask such as "Why does God allow bad things to happen?" and "How do I know that my faith is right when my friends worship with other religions?"Resources:Thoughts to Make Your Heart Sing by Sally-Lloyd JonesHow Great is Our God by Louie GiglioThe Jesus Storybook Bible by Sally-Lloyd Jones
- What if My Child Doesn't Like Youth Group? (00:45:21)
In this episode, Alice is joined by Davis Lacey, a former youth pastor who now leads a young church plant in Ellijay, GA (Autumn Ridge Community Church). Drawing from personal experience, Davis shares how churches which take intergenerational integration seriously are great assets for family discipleship and growing faith in teenagers - even if those churches don't have formal "youth groups." Then, he and Alice dive into this week's questions, including, "Should I force my child to go to youth group?", "Is it OK for my child to attend another church's youth group?", "How can I support my child's youth leaders while respecting my child's space?", and more. Show notes: Rooted's 3-Part "Church Planting as Youth Ministry" series of articles, available using the links at the top of article #3 (https://rootedministry.com/blog/church-planting-and-youth-ministry-three-steps-to-help-teenagers-serve-your-church/)Take you pick of other articles from Rooted's "Intergenerational Integration" tab. https://rootedministry.com/?tag=intergenerational-integration&post_types&author_id&s
- We Are Family: Biological Siblings Adjusting to Adopted Siblings (00:35:15)
In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice addresses what is, in her opinion, one of the most underserved populations among kids today: biological siblings in adoption homes. She interviews author, counselor, and mother of an adopted daughter Jennifer Phillips on the joys and trials of bringing an adopted child into the home. She discusses common issues that biological children experience during the adjustment stage, including their own trauma and feelings of displacement. Jennifer gently encourages parents to let go of the pressure to "do it right" and provides beautiful, gospel-filled language on explaining adoption to children.Resources:Social media handles: FB - Jennifer Phillips / Insta - @jennifer_leigh_phillipsBringing Lucy Home by Jennifer PhillipsHope When it's Hard by Jennifer PhillipsUnhitching from the Crazy Train: Finding Rest in a World You Can't Control by Julie Sparkman and Jennifer Phillips
- How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen; How to Listen So Your Kids Will Talk (00:37:55)
In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice welcomes the hosts of another Rooted podcast you will want to subscribe to. The Rooted Parent Podcast, hosted by Cameron Cole and Anna Meade Harris, aims to equip and encourage parents as they disciple their children to lifelong faith in Jesus Christ. Rooted Parent is a part of the Rooted Family of Podcasts.Resources:The Rooted Parent PodcastJohn chapter 4
- Drowning in Mom Guilt (00:39:35)
In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice discusses the post-Mother's Day reality that often consumes our daily thoughts - mom guilt. She answers questions from our listeners but also uses her own mom-fail moment to discuss the dangerous, slippery slope that guilt leads to. She distinguishes between Mom-guilt and Mom-shame, and processes the idols that these can expose in our parenting. Using Gospel-centered truths, she illustrates how grace toward ourselves and other struggling moms can end the spiral of unhealthy lies. Resources:14 Gospel Principles that can Radically Change Your Family by Paul David Tripp"Surface Pressure" from Encanto by Lin-Manuel Miranda
- Too Much of a Good Thing: Screen Time Overload (00:30:23)
In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews editor and author Betsy Childs Howard on her newest children's book, Polly and the Screen Time Overload. The two discuss the updated recommendations for screen time use in children, as well as the differences in technology from a decade ago. In her gentle and humble way, Betsy provides excellent dialog opportunities for parents to have with kids on what Scripture says - without saying - on screen time usage and the necessary why's behind screen time boundaries.Resources:Polly and the Screen Time Overload by Betsy Childs Howard
- Learning to Fly: College Application Process and Decisions (00:47:27)
Resources:College Data point comparisons and rankings:https://collegescorecard.ed.gov/https://www.wsj.com/articles/college-rankings-list-2022-11632246093https://www.usnews.com/best-collegesCollege Search Platformshttps://www.niche.com/https://www.collegexpress.comhttps://www.scoir.com/https://www.naviance.com/
- Stuck On You: Attachment Disorders within Adoption and Biological Homes (00:45:58)
Resources:The God Attachment by Clinton and StraubEmpowered to Connect - www.empoweredtoconnect.orgThe Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family by Karyn B. PurvisThe Connected Parent: Real-Life Strategies for Building Trust and Attachment by Karyn B. Purvis
- Good Lovin' Gone Bad: Teens and Relationship Addiction (00:35:41)
Resources:Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture by Meg MeekerCodependent No More by Melanie BeattieGet Your Story Straight by Kristen Hatton
- Establishing a Growth Mindset in our New Year's Resolutions (00:28:26)
Resources:Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol DweckBig Life Journal Teen EditionThe 12 Week Year by Brian Moran and Michael Lennington
- How A Muppet Christmas Carol Teaches Us the Love Languages of our Kids (00:35:17)
Resources: The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman and Ross CampbellLove Like Jesus by Kurt BennettThe Precious Present by Spencer Johnson
- What Teens Hear When Parents Talk, with author David Thomas (00:38:46)
For more about David and the books he has authored, visit https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com
- Ask Alice: A Healthy Approach to Athletics for Teenagers (with football coach Mark Rector) (00:46:15)
For further reading: The Matheny Manifesto: A Young Manager’s Old-School Views on Success in Sports and Life
- Ask Alice: Children and Teens with ADHD with Dr. Dale Wisely (00:55:32)
BOOKS: The Whole Brained ChildADHD Workbook for KidsSmart but ScatteredTaking Charge of ADHDUnderstanding Girls with ADHD: How they Feel and Why They Do What They DoWEBSITES: Differential Efficacy of Neurofeedback in Children with ADHD Presentations: Journal of Clinical MedicineIn-School Neurofeedback Training for ADHD: Sustained Improvements From a Randomized Control Trial: Journal of the American Academy of PediatricsWhat Are the Top ADHD Resources? Resources for Enfolding Youth with Disabilities Into Your Ministry