Behind the BJ podcast
HumorSamfunnLet’s go Behind the BJ, with Brandye and Jason, as we discuss trying to date in a world where right swipes tend to dictate who ends up in our bed. We’ll listen to each other’s crazy dating stories and analyze from the other gender’s perspective. We’ll dive into everything from swiping left and right to taking things to that next level, plus everything in between. The New York Times (definitely did not) called us the best possible dating podcast you could listen to. And a number of our friends say “This is a MUST LISTEN for anyone and everyone - whether you’re single looking for advice or dating and need a reminder that the grass isn’t always greener”.
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- 30. Where the hell have we been???? (00:25:07)
After a long extended hiatus…. WE ARE BACK! Yes… we know… we’ve been just a tad M.I.A. but we are back, and we’ll let you know what has been going on, and where we’ve been! But now as Chicago and the country opens back up, its time to get back on the horse and be here for your entertainment! Its time baby! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 29. Covid is the New Herpes… with Benny Mathew (01:26:24)
At Age 7, Benny Mathew immigrated to the US from India. He grew up in a predominantly Sicilian neighborhood in the suburbs of Chicago, poor, chubby, and racially confused. Later in life, it took watching his aunt, a real female role model, pass away from cancer, to see that he wasn’t living up to his own potential. He ended a marriage that did not bring him joy anymore, moved to Chicago, and joined the ranks of the single life. We talk to Benny about this change and so much more (Including why Covid is the new Herpes!) on this week’s episode of Behind the BJ. Find Benny on Instagram @bmathew7, on Facebook @Banny Mathew, LinkedIn @ Benny Mathew, Youtube: @Orion3Chicago Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 28. If I see a Tit, I could see a Clit… With Nick Sautter (01:06:42)
This week we welcome guest Nick Sautter to the studio. Nick is a championship power lifter, a published scientist, an all around good guy and he is new to Chicago, single and trying to mingle! Our first guest of 2021 will get into some of the gore details of his experience dating on the apps in the Covid world. He teaches Jason the phrase “meet cute” and shares some truly crazy stories of just trying to find his perfect match! You’re going to want to listen in on this one, but be prepared to laugh and to have your jaw drop on several occasions! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 27. New Year, Same old F**king ME! (00:39:41)
We are BACK! After breaking for the Holidays and some other things… Brandye & Jason are back, and so excited to catch you all up on what’s been going on for the past few weeks. We’ll catch everyone up on what’s been going on and where we’ve been. We talk about our NYE celebrations to say “Bye Bitch” to 2020, and of course get into our 2021 resolutions. Now we want to hear what YOUR resolutions are, and what fun / sexy times your New Years Eve brought you! Find us on Peloton @MrJay187 @BrandyeVP Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 26. And your first runner up is… with Gina Melchiorri (01:07:15)
Butt Glue is a thing guys! On this week’s episode, Comedienne, Personal Trainer, Ping Ponger, and perennial Beauty pageant first runner up, Gina Melchiorri discusses her experiences both on and off the Miss Illinois stage (including butt glue)! The hilarious Gina takes us through her own relationship, and how championship ping pong brought her love. And don’t forget… #WheresTheQueso? Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 25. Coming Out On Top with Todd Siddons (01:28:08)
After months of trying, Brandye and Jason finally have had the opportunity to speak to Todd Siddons, network marketing guru, motivational speaker, and, just like Jason, die hard Philadelphia Eagles fan! As our first gay guest, Todd will talk to us about what his coming out experience was like, and just some of his storied relationships. Find Todd at www.toddsiddons.com, on Instagram @Todd.siddons and on Facebook at Todd Siddons. Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 24. A Relationship Casualty of Covid with Arthur Donovan (00:52:12)
In this week’s episode, Brandye and Jason interview the founder of the non profit organization Adulting 1101, Arthur Donovan to talk about another ugly side of Covid life. Arthur discuses how the pressures of quarantine exposed some of the real issues that existed between he and his now ex-fiancee, and how all of this transpired while being forced to quarantine away from the outside world. We will also look at life after death (of a relationship), and find out if Instagram is the new Tinder… All this and more… listen now! Find Arthur and his organization at www.adulting1101.org and on Instagram @adulting1101 Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 23. Building Mature Love and Intimacy with Thomas Westenholz (01:16:21)
Brandye and Jason welcome relationship expert, author, and founder of zensensa.com, (and fellow red head) Thomas Westenholz on the show (All the way from London!) this week. Thomas discusses some of the keys to a mature love and mature intimacy including Thomas’s 3 steps to intimacy & love. Next, we discuss the 4 attachment styles and the 5 love languages and how understanding these can help you relate better with your partner. Find Thomas on www.zensensa.com and on Instagram @zen_sensa Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 22. The Trials and Tribulations of Dating During Covid with Carlie S. (01:06:20)
This week we welcome Carlie S. to the studio to take us through her ups and downs of dating during a global pandemic. Tune in to hear about how Carlie manages to get guys to fall in love after a first date and how that plays out when boundaries haven’t been fully established! These are the realities of dating during Covid … enjoy! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 21. Shackin’ up with the Ex with Kirby B. (00:43:57)
What happens when a global pandemic pushes you to leave your big New York City apartment to escape to a more livable suburb? Well, if you’re our guest this week, you move in with your…. EX! In this week’s episode we interview Kirby S about her time over the past 3 months living with her ex boyfriend. Did the quarantine lifestyle cause sparks to fly, or did it just reassure both of them that they truly are better off as friends? Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 20. And We’re Back! (00:44:50)
We are back! Yes, we know… you’ve missed us, and we missed you too! We took the month of July off, but we are back now. This week we keep things pretty light and give everyone a quick recap of what has kept us busy the past month. We’re sorry that we left you for a few weeks, but the entertainment will pick right back up from here! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 19. Sex Drugs & Rock n’ Roll with Nathan Iz (01:13:39)
What an episode we have for you this week! We are interviewing Nathan, a friend of ours who has led a crazy life that included a years long battle with drugs and alcohol. We talk to Nate about his battle and his long road to recovery, along with a slew of other fun and interesting stories he has in his arsenal - both dating and generally. This one will get you laughing, but we dive into some tough material too… definitely NSFW!
- 18. Ending the Love Triangle with Donna Chin (00:54:58)
This week Jason and Brandye welcome another exciting guest onto the podcast! Donna Chin lives in LA where she finds herself immersed in the inner circles of the rich and sometimes famous. She discusses with us the LA dating scene, what it was like going on a date with her childhood celebrity crush, and struggling with her latest romantic challenges - dating a man who is less than available and coming to terms with the fact that he just won’t choose only her. Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 17. When Love and Politics Don’t Mix (00:56:01)
Our world is in turmoil. Between the stresses of the Covid-19 pandemic and, even more so, the current events that have once again highlighted the racial divide in this country and around the world, it is impossible to be neutral in our political stands these days. Politically, this country has become completely polarized. In this episode, we take a look at how this can play out in relationships. Can you date someone who with different political leanings than yourself? Do you want to be able to? If you do love someone who leans toward the other side of the aisle, how can you find healthy ways to make that relationship work? We’ll explore this and more in this week’s new episode of Behind the BJ. Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 16. Mom, It’s okay if I’m still single! Feat. Danielle S. AKA British D. (01:11:00)
We welcome another wonderful guest into our studio for this week’s fun episode! As you may tell from the title, our main topic revolves around how to deal with the pressure that family and some friends can place on us to settle down and have a family, even when so many other things in our lives are going so well. Our favorite Chicago educator and socialite from across the pond joins us to chat about this. While here, we also find out what brought Danielle to Chicago, our mutual love of our city, differences between dating Brits and Americans, the importance of and changing stigma around going to therapy, and a few other fun things. Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 15. Are we Just Friends? (00:48:41)
In these crazy quarantine times, it can be hard to fulfill certain… needs! While you may not want to start breaking social distance rules with total strangers, it can be tempting to act on the unspoken sexual chemistry between you and your friend. In today’s episode Brandye and Jason look at the age old situation of being “Friends with Benefits”. It can be a difficult road to navigate. What if you or the other person catches feelings? How do you keep it truly just casual. Do you keep things on the DL or not? We’ll look at ways to ensure your FWB stays an “F”… unless of course you both want to take things to the next level! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 14. We’re Going the Distance (01:06:16)
Brandye and Jason attempt to use technology to their benefit in their first ever Zoom podcast recording. In this week’s episode they’ll tackle the subject of “Long Distance Relationships”. Having both experienced the ups and downs of LDRs in the past, B&J will discuss the tips, tricks, and challenges of trying to maintain a relationship with miles in between! Luckily, some advancements in technology (Hello FACETIME!) has made things slightly easier, but make no mistake… the LDR takes some careful maneuvering and isn’t for everyone! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 13. Are We Going Crazy? (00:39:28)
As we creep into our 7th week of quarantine, Brandye & Jason are starting to go a little stir crazy! In this episode, we give updates on our own lives, our relationships, and our current mental states. The reality of being cooped up with our significant others without a break has set in, and we discuss how we are dealing with it. We also have a big surprise update on a previous BTBJ guest! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 12. Do you have a type? (00:51:52)
In this episode Brandye and Jason delve into dating “types”. As in, do you have a type (spoiler alert: most of you do), why do you have a type, and is it wise to try and date someone who matches what you think you want in a partner, or maybe expand your horizons just a bit? We’ll also reflect on life today vs. just one month ago, and how much things have changed, etiquette while on video calls, Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 11. Keeping Busy (00:59:11)
As we all slide into our 4th week of being quarantined and socially distanced, Brandye and Jason discuss their thoughts on the current state of the world, how they are feeling about everything, and some of the different ways they have been trying to pass the time. We give updates on our current TV lineups, tips on staying sane while staying inside (mostly), and of course… sex lives during the quarantine! While we are all struggling at the moment, Behind the BJ is here to hopefully provide some comic relief during the pandemic! Stay home, stay healthy (Listen to our podcast!)… we will all get through this together! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 10. Family Matters (00:57:53)
You’ve started dating someone and you think they’re great! But do they pass the friend test? What about when it gets a little more serious and you think you want them to meet your family? These are big steps in a relationship and in this episode, Brandye and Jason tackle this subject. When is the right time to make the introductions? What settings should you avoid? What topics should you avoid? Preparation is the name of the game here! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 9. Hanging out to Dry (00:55:03)
The world is in lock down / self quarantine. Your dating apps may be blowing up, and your exes may be sliding into your DMs, but it doesn’t mean much if you can’t see them, right? Those of you who are single are bound to end up in a bit of a dry spell during this pandemic! In this episode, Brandye and Jason interview a guest who is no stranger to dry spells - she’s been on one for quite some time now. We’ll get into why it’s been so long, how to cope with a dry spell (masturbation anyone?), our thoughts on using sex to get over a break up, sharing your number and a variety of other subjects with our wonderful guest, Diana. Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 8. Love in the Time of Corona(Virus) (00:51:26)
We are in unprecedented times! The zombie apocalypse, err… Coronavirus may be upon us! Store shelves are empty as people are hoarding… toilet paper? And while some may want to practice social distancing, what does all of this mean for our dating lives and sex? In this week’s episode, Brandye and Jason think about how to use this social distancing thing to our advantage, because… who want’s to stay celibate in quarantine? Brandye also tells us about some Miami shenanigans and how she’s now a lesbian. Plus, we’ll give our own recap of the Bachelor finale. Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 7. Let’s just be friends! (00:49:59)
Let’s stay friends, okay? Is that ever a good idea? Brandye and Jason do a deep dive into whether or not it is possible to be friends with your ex, when it is, and when it definitely isn’t, and they also go over some basic tips for how to make a friendship work with someone who you used to see naked on the regular! Spoiler alert… take a lot of time to recover first! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com
- 6. The DoppelBänger (01:37:12)
What’s the best way to get over someone? Get under someone who looks exactly like them! Brandye and Jason interview Chris and A, creators of the I’d App That Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id-app-that-podcast/id1460434471 ), and learn all about how they came to meet and develop their hit show. A tells us about how easy it is to get kicked off of Tinder and Chris shares a no-holes barred one night stand experience that leaves everyone in tears laughing. Plus… we talk doppelbängers! We are so excited to have our first guests on the podcast. We kept this one long, but we promise it’s worth every minute! We delve into a ton of topics around dating - both funny and serious, and we finish the episode by reviewing one of our loyal listener’s dating app profiles (Find the screen shots on our Instagram page @behindthebjpodcast). Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at Info@BehindtheBJ Email Chris & A at AppThatPodcast@gmail.com