Bonding
FaktaFritidHelseWelcome to Bonding – a kinky podcast hosted by me, Sarah Butcher – AKA Sub in the City. I am a BDSM Coach, Kink Educator, Sex-Positive Therapist, and proudly collared submissive with over a decade of experience on the BDSM Scene. I’m on a mission to bring BDSM into the 21st Century and empower curious kinksters like yourselves to consciously explore what BDSM means to you. In this podcast, you’ll hear me talk about all things kink – so whether you’re new to the scene, or you’re a long-standing member of the community, welcome Kinksters, I’m looking forward to bonding with you.
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- The Sacred Healing Power of Kink (00:11:45)
Happy New Year, kinksters! I’m back with another episode of Bonding and this one is a JUICY one! 💦 I’ve recently been reflecting on the work that I do, both as a Humanistic Integrative Therapist and Kink Coach and Educator, and feeling fascinated and privileged at witnessing the amazing transformations that happen when people can embrace their kinky selves. Something I have witnessed when working with these Kink focused clients, is how the topic of sex, kink and pleasure, quickly open up this...
- Curious about Impact Play? (00:20:27)
Greetings, fellow kinksters! I’m back with another episode of Bonding and today’s special focus is on impact play. In this jam-packed podcast, we dive deep into the art of impact - uncovering the science behind why we enjoy pain-based pleasure, discussing essential safety and communication practices, and revealing insider techniques to level up your impact play skills. And for those of you in the London area, get ready for an unforgettable experience! We're hosting an in-person impact play w...
- Kinky Confessions from our Halloween Underworld (00:20:40)
Blood Lust Confessions - Halloween Cocktails & Kink! 🎙️ Join us for a deliciously tantalizing episode as I dive into the wildest confessions from Blood Lust, our latest Halloween cocktail and kink event! This episode, we’re sharing some of the community’s most daring and dirty secrets, straight from the confession box. Get ready for juicy tales of messy play, bold exhibitionism, and fabulous fantasies that reveal just how uninhibited—and creative—our attendees can be. From naughty experie...
- Slave vs Service Sub: Exploring the Differences in BDSM (00:13:55)
In this episode of Bonding, I dive into the nuanced differences between slave and service submission within the BDSM dynamic. I answer a listener's question about the two terms, discussing how each reflects varying degrees of power exchange and submission styles. While "slave" often evokes stronger emotions due to historical and non-consensual connotations, I explores how, in BDSM, it can also represent a consensual power dynamic. On the other hand, service submission highlights voluntary act...
- What NOT to say when chatting someone up (00:19:33)
Spooky season has begun and I'm back in your earbuds with another episode of Bonding. This week I talk to you about etiquette - the do's and don'ts when you're chatting up potential kinky partners. I discuss how to initiate conversations with like-minded kinksters and the process that can help create authentic connections with awareness. I touch on leading from a place of safety, trust and respect. Tune in to hear me talk about the importance of first impressions online and how just because y...
- Dom and Sub Mystery Questions (00:32:06)
Sarah and Carlos ask each other three mystery questions . The result? A glorious episode of memory sharing, confessions, gratitude and love. Tune in to this bonus episode of Bonding to hear more from Sarah and her Dom/fiancé Carlos. Having established a relationship for a couple of years before bringing in kink dynamics, Sarah and Carlos share how having privacy and going self-employed helped them build a successful D/s lifestyle together. We hear Sarah and Carlos confess to feeling sh...
- PSA Lack of experience is NOT a red flag. Top tips for vetting a partner (00:16:22)
Just with any dating process, determining whether someone is right for you, or has the potential to develop something with you takes time and awareness. Within the world of kink, vetting is a very common part of dating and socialising. With vetting, we are checking out a person's vibe and whether we like them. It is a process of obtaining information about someone you wish to get to know on a sexual or romantic level. But remember, this isn’t about finding a good dom or a good sub. Ins...
- Creativity & Kink: Your Inner Child Loves Kink! (00:12:09)
BDSM and kink is all about PLAY! However the censorship of BDSM within mainstream media feeds into this societal misconception that adulting is hard, and boring, and serious. That adults are not allowed to PLAY! It is said that we lose our creativity as we get older. Even the schooling system is designed in a way to discourage us to think outside of the box; it is designed to keep us confined within the box of what is considered “the norm”. Therefore, it is no surprise that BDSM ...
- Bratting vs Topping from the bottom: How to get what you want from your Dom whilst remaining in surrender. (00:16:17)
Do you identify as a BRAT? Do you love to test your Dom and take control? Or do you wish you could surrender more? In this episode I break down the difference between bratting and ‘topping from the bottom’ as well as giving all submissives some top tips on the ways to ask your Dom for what you want without it taking away from your submissive experience. I break down some of the behaviours that you might notice when topping from the bottom, ask you some important questions to get ...
- Tapping into your intuition: How to spot red flags, set boundaries from a place of alignment rather than fear. (00:15:48)
Today I'm sharing some top tips on tapping into your intuition to help you spot red flags, identify your boundaries, and most importantly, uphold these boundaries. Our intuition is our gut feeling, that sense that we can’t always tell what it is, but it’s a deep knowing that is often never wrong. Of course this doesn’t just apply in kink contexts, but in all of our actions and decisions in life, it’s just that within the world of kink, we get a really good opportunity to practice flexing this...
- Ask Me and My Dom Anything: Part 2 (00:24:05)
In this episode, Carlos and I are back on the couch answering your kinky questions again. We talk about all things communication, playfulness, sex parties and libido.Want to learn more about these topics? Head to subinthecity.com to find online workshops and details about in-person events for you to expand your curiosity and get top tips from leading professionals in the field of BDSM.Support the showJoin my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!
- Kink Magik: Releasing shame through eroticising the taboo (00:17:18)
In this episode, I share with you the ways in which BDSM & Kink can allow us to welcome in our shadows. Whether it be limiting beliefs, insecurities, fears or shame, I explain how eroticising these feelings helps us take back control and embody our most authentic selves with confidence. I’ll also share with you how to get started or to reflect on how kink is already supporting you to release the beliefs that commonly hold us back in life! You can download your limits and boundaries check...
- BDSM is NOT what it says on the tin: Looking beyond the myths & stereotypes of BDSM & Kink (00:12:23)
BDSM – an acronym that can sound incredibly intimidating. In this quick and dirty episode, I talk about the barriers to entry that come with the term BDSM, define what kink actually is, and explore what it truly means to explore the BDSM lifestyle. Let’s challenge what we’ve been taught about sex and start to uncover our true desires, bringing those shadows into the light!Support the showJoin my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!
- All About Collars: Symbolism, Practicality and Style (00:23:45)
In this episode, I discuss BDSM collars, their meaning, and why we use them. I also touch on the collars I wear, and how you can start to consider using a collar that feels aligned to you in your power play dynamic. In this episode, I talk about my stainless steel collar that I got from Him and Her Erotic Steel. I also speak about my day collar that I got from Creidhne Studio on Esty. If you'd like to learn more about the upcoming couples retreat, please visit my website. Suppo...
- Ask me and my Dom anything! (00:41:26)
In this episode, I am joined by my Dom/fiance as we answer some of your questions about our D/s dynamic and kink in general. We go into topics such as navigating your kinkiness in dating, long-distance must-dos, coming out about your kinks, working with your cycle in D/s, communication and so much more. We really enjoyed answering these questions and there will definitely be a part 2!Support the showJoin my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!
- My Kink Journey: Mistakes, mishaps and insights that led me to become a Kink Educator AND find the love of my life! (00:32:57)
Welcome back to season 2 of Bonding! In this episode, I open up about my own kink journey, where it began, some of the mishaps and learnings along the way, and give you some of my biggest insights I wish I knew in my early days. I also share how my journey led me to become a BDSM Coach & Kink Educator, AND how letting go of unrealistic expectations led me to find the love of my life. Support the show Join my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!
- Kink, Intimacy & Connection: What TF is Conscious Kink and how to practice it (00:08:49)
What TF is Conscious Kink? This term “conscious” has become a bit of a buzzword in the spiritual and sexual wellness spaces, but it’s not as intimidating as it sounds! In this episode, I debunk the idea that Kink can’t be conscious, and explain how more likely than not, you’re already practising conscious kink! Join me for an evening of Conscious Kink in London on Thursday 29th June. Support the showJoin my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!
- Boredom, Confidence & Stuckness: Signs you've hit a plateau on your kink journey (00:13:22)
Have you been feeling stuck recently? Perhaps your kinky play sessions are not quite hitting the spot or you're feeling uninspired and not sure where to go next? In this episode, I discuss some common roadblocks in BDSM & Kink and how to navigate them. Support the showJoin my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!
- Long Distance BDSM: Tips for keeping the kink alive (00:10:48)
How do you keep things fresh when you’re in a long-distance D/s dynamic? BDSM requires commitment and consistency which means LD dynamics can be difficult to navigate at first. Whether you’re fully LD or you need some tips for when you’re apart from your partner, check out this episode on how to keep the kink alive when you’re not together physically. Check out my sexy summer event: Cocktails & Kink - Earlybird tickets on sale now! Support the show Join my brand-new members community! ...
- Pain, Power Exchange and Safewords Debunked! (00:12:24)
Isn’t BDSM meant to be painful? Isn’t the risk all part of the fun? …yes and no. There are so many misconceptions around BDSM and how it should be experienced. In this episode, I debunk some common stereotypes and talk about my own experiences of how these misconceptions are only reinforcing the stigma attached to kink. Join me on March 16th in the Dungeon for my BDSM Scene Building Workshop.Support the showJoin my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!
- BDSM, Sex Parties & Monogamy (00:12:02)
Do monogamy and kink really go together? Isn’t playing with others an inevitable part of BDSM? What about kink parties? I get a lot of questions about feeling apart of the kink community when you are in a monogamous D/s dynamic or simply want to explore kink with one person only. In this episode, I debunk some of the common misconceptions and, give you a first look at a new Sub in the City offering!Support the showJoin my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!
- Sub Space, is it worth the hype? (00:16:59)
What is Sub Space? Have you ever felt it? And how do we get there? In this episode, I am diving into the sought-after state known as Sub Space, discussing the pros and cons, what it might look like for you, and how to navigate it. Not everyone has experienced it, but is it really worth the hype? Also, points for anyone who catches the Friends reference in there! Follow my backup instagram @subinthecity_ Sign up to my mailing list Support the show Join my brand-new members community! Sign ...
- Consistency within Kink & re-framing 24/7 D/s dynamics (00:14:46)
How do we fit our kinky lifestyles around our vanilla responsibilities and commitments? The concept of the 24/7 Dominant/submissive dynamic sounds super decadent and inspiring, but also unattainable and unsustainable for many of us with other priorities and responsibilities. In this episode, I talk about what a healthy kink dynamic looks like, and why 24/7 lifestyles are not just defined by how much “play” is in your day. Support the show Join my brand-new members community! Sign up to my m...
- New Year, New Kink! (00:14:12)
Forget new year’s resolutions, 2023 is all about new kinks. If you want to make 2023 the year you explore your desires in more depth and finally try out that fantasy you can’t get out of your head, then check out this episode of Bonding with Sarah for some quick and easy tips to get started on your kink journey! Download your Yes, No, Maybe Checklist: https://mailchi.mp/ca800f85d3ae/4clm6n124o Book your 1-1 BDSM Exploratory Session: www.subinthecity.com/booking Support the show Join my bran...