Can We Fkn Talk?
FaktaFor unge lyttereHave you ever had that moment in Motherhood where you’ve wondered, “Why did no one tell me this BEFORE I had a baby?” Well I’m here to change all that by having the conversations you wish you had before becoming a parent. I’m Ashleigh Scrivener, a Connective Parenting and Mindset Coach passionate about supporting Mums to put themselves first so that you have the capacity to respond to your child’s needs and connect not only to yourself but your kids as well. With over 10 years in the early childhood education and care industry, I know a thing or two about early childhood development, children’s behaviour and supporting families through the early years, but when I became a parent myself, I felt like a fish out of water. I love supporting Mums find more ease in their parenting, personal and professional lives while saying goodbye to Mum guilt for good. This show will feature conversations, stories, helpful tips and parenting support from guest experts and parents with the goal of sharing publicly the conversations every Mum needs to hear.Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/canwefkntalk_pod/Follow Ash: https://www.instagram.com/_ashscrivener/
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- 031 | Solo Episode - Why Do So Many Women Hold Onto People Pleasing - Until They Become a Mum? (00:23:09)
This episode was sparked by a comment from a TikTok comment which said, “I stopped saying yes all the time and masking so much - and now I have no friends.” Ooft. I felt that. And my honest response? Were they ever really your friends? Or did they just benefit from you always keeping the peace? Today, we’re diving into what happens when you stop people pleasing - especially after becoming a Mum - and realise that the “connections” you had might’ve been built on a version of you that was just...
- 030 | Lurinda V - Rebuilding After The Break-Up (00:54:06)
In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I welcome back the incredible Lurinda for part two of her story - a no-filter, deeply vulnerable journey through separation, solo parenting, personal growth, and ultimately rekindling her relationship. We unpack the raw truth of what it really looks like to choose yourself in the messiest seasons - navigating solo Motherhood, facing the possibility of never having your own biological children, confronting past traumas, and slowly rebuilding a new kind of ...
- 029 | Lurinda V - What Happens When You Become a Step-Mum at 21? (01:05:00)
In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Lurinda Vollmer, who shares her deeply personal journey into Motherhood - starting as a step-Mum at just 21. We talk about what it’s like to suddenly be parenting kids who aren’t yours biologically, the emotional rollercoaster of navigating trauma and young adulthood at the same time, and how loving two little girls shaped the way she later parented her son. Lurinda opens up about the heartbreaking moment she was told she mig...
- 028 | Bonnie B - The Power Of Not Settling (00:49:44)
In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Bonnie - a Mum, coach, and a mfkn MILF - whose journey into Motherhood was anything but linear. From an unexpected pregnancy to the realities of a shifting identity, breastfeeding trauma, relationship tension, and business burnout, Bonnie brings her raw honesty and wisdom. We talk about the mindset shifts that helped her transform chaos into clarity, the ways she used self-awareness to stop hiding from her shadows, and why sh...
- 027 | Rashelle L - Who Even Am I Anymore? (00:49:07)
In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Rashelle Leahy - mum of three, business owner, and owner of Intuitive Mummas. Rashelle shares her powerful journey of becoming a parent at 22, navigating life overseas, and the identity shifts that come with Motherhood. We get real about letting go of expectations, feeling lost, and finding ourselves again beyond the "Mum" label. We explore how identity evolves, the pressures of societal norms, and why it’s crucial to give yo...
- 026 | Rashelle L - Does Parenting Ever Get Any Easier? (00:45:41)
Every stage of Motherhood brings its own unique set of challenges, whether it’s navigating sleep deprivation in the newborn phase, toddler tantrums and big emotions, or the emotional rollercoaster of raising school-aged kids. In today’s episode, I’m joined by the amazing Rashelle Leahy - mum of three who opens up about becoming a Mum in her early 20s, just months after getting married, and how she and her husband faced the pressure of juggling financial stress, growing a relationship, and fig...
- 025 | Ashy Anne - Parenting Is Political (Whether You Like It or Not) (02:09:16)
In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Ashy Anne to dive into the very real, often overlooked truth: parenting is political. From housing affordability and childcare accessibility to tax systems, superannuation, and even the groceries in our trolley - politics shapes every aspect of our lives as parents. Now before you roll your eyes or switch off, hear me out. Politics isn’t just something that happens in Parliament or on the news. It’s in the cost of daycare. It...
- 024 | Solo Episode - Four Years Into Motherhood (00:34:11)
In this solo ep, I’m getting all up in my feels as I reflect on four years of Motherhood. With my daughter’s birthday around the corner, I have found myself comparing who I was in year one - running on no sleep, second-guessing every decision, trying to keep a tiny human alive - to who I am now: a Mum who’s way more solid in herself, who’s done the work, and who’s still learning every single day. I talk about the difference between reacting and responding, what it actually means to be regulat...
- 023 | Solo Episode - I don’t want to be a SAHM - Rewriting the Motherhood Rulebook (00:42:08)
Season 2 is officially coming to a close, and I couldn’t think of a better way to wrap it up than with a solo episode in my Rewriting the Motherhood Rulebook series. Today, I’m opening up about why I don’t want to be a stay-at-home Mum - a topic that, for the longest time, made me feel like a "bad Mum". I’ll share the mindset shifts that helped me move through the guilt and judgment that came with this decision, the expectations society places on Mothers, and why I believe there’s so much val...
- 022 | Danni W - Twin Motherhood, identity shifts & expectations (00:42:17)
In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Danni Whiley, who went from living a busy, adventurous life with her own business to the unexpected journey of becoming a twin Mum. We dive deep into the identity shift she experienced and how her whole world changed the moment she found out she was expecting twins. Danni shares the emotional rollercoaster of navigating late postpartum depression and anxiety, shedding light on the silent struggles so many Mums face but rarely...
- 021 | Carly B - Mindset, personal growth & letting go of expectations (00:46:23)
Welcome back to Can We Fkn Talk? for part two of my conversation with Carly Box. In this episode, we dive deep into mindset, empowerment, and embracing who you truly are. Carly shares her journey of breaking free from societal expectations, especially as a working Mum, and how she’s learned to live life unapologetically on her own terms. We talk about the pressures placed on Mothers to meet certain standards and how Carly navigates judgement and stereotypes to create a life that feels right f...
- 020 | Carly B - Resilience, empowerment & navigating single Motherhood (00:45:47)
In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Carly Box - a single Mum of two, military veteran, and all-around powerhouse. Carly’s story is one of resilience, transformation, and learning how to truly thrive after life takes an unexpected turn. We dive deep into her journey - from her career in the military to travelling the world, starting a business, and ultimately stepping into Motherhood. Carly opens up about the unexpected decision to become a parent, the challenge...
- 019 | Ashy Anne - Respectful parenting, activism & cycle breaking (01:05:34)
In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with Ashlee Griffiths, (aka TikTok superstar - Ashy Anne) a passionate advocate for cycle-breaking, respectful parenting, and generational healing. Ashy shares her deeply personal journey of unlearning toxic family patterns, setting firm boundaries, and raising her children with intention, kindness, and respect. We explore the confronting reality of breaking generational cycles and how childhood experiences shape the way we parent. Ashy opens up...
- 018 | Solo Episode - Rewriting the Motherhood Rulebook Series (00:45:04)
In this solo episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I’m kicking off a brand-new series: Rewriting the Motherhood Rulebook. This series dives deep into my personal Motherhood journey - starting with the highs, the lows, and the unfiltered reality of how I’ve rewritten my narrative as a Mum. I’m sharing everything, from the challenges of falling pregnant with PCOS, navigating perinatal anxiety, and experiencing a traumatic birth, to the game-changing decisions I’ve made - like stepping into a new career ...
- 017 | Cassie A - Finding community, connection & embracing vulnerability (Part 2) (00:47:20)
In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I chat with Cassie Arrowgros, the brilliant mind behind Big Little Wins, a transformative community for Mums in Logan (Qld, Aus). We reflect on how Motherhood holds up a mirror to both our strengths and our vulnerabilities, revealing areas for growth we never knew existed. Cassie opens up about her journey to creating a space where Mums can feel supported, seen, and empowered through humour, respect, and empathy. We also discuss the mental load in relation...
- 016 | Cassie A - Navigating identity, control, and community (Part 1) (00:44:09)
In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with Cassie Arrowgros, founder of Big Little Wins, to have an honest and open conversation about the challenges and transformations that come with Motherhood. Cassie shares her deeply personal journey through infertility and IVF, reflecting on how those experiences shaped her perspective on parenting and identity. We dive into what it means to rebuild your sense of self after becoming a Mum and how letting go of control can be one of the hardest...
- 015 | Alice W - Successful career, setting boundaries and flexibility (00:49:40)
In this heartfelt and empowering episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with Alice Worthy, The Modern Doula, who shares her incredible journey of balancing career and Motherhood. From managing a thriving doula business and a full-time job plus raising two young children with her partner, Alice dives into the realities of identity shifts, societal pressures, and navigating the ever-elusive "work-life balance." We discuss the importance of breaking the stigma around being a working Mum, why da...
- 014 | Welcome to Season 2 - Solo Episode with Ash (00:32:45)
Season 2 kicks off with a bang as I reflect on the year that was 2024 - its highs, its lows, and everything in between. I’m sharing my journey of prioritising myself, including the massive milestone of bariatric surgery and the transformation it sparked in my life. We’re diving into the power of setting intentions, aligning actions with values, and the tools I’ve used to stay disciplined, like managing screen time and saying no to distractions. 2025 is here, and I’m so ready for it! My word f...
- 013 | Carlie S - Culture, generational trauma and mental health (Part 2) (00:35:00)
⚠️Trigger Warning: This episode discusses generational trauma, systemic racism, and mental health challenges. In this deeply moving and insightful episode, I continue my conversation with Carlie Schofield, exploring the intersection of Motherhood, mental health, and the impact of generational trauma. Carlie shares her personal journey as a Mother navigating the unique challenges shaped by her Mum’s experience as part of Australia’s Stolen Generation. Together, we discuss the struggles of see...
- 012 | Carlie S - Identity shifts, resilience & being a working Mum (Part 1) (00:39:13)
⚠️ This episode contains discussions about infertility, postpartum struggles, and mental health challenges, including feelings of inadequacy and distress. Listener discretion is advised. In this episode, I’m joined by the amazing Carlie Schofield, who opens up about her raw and honest journey through Motherhood. From navigating infertility and PCOS to the challenges of postpartum recovery, Carlie shares her struggles with the mental load, feeding guilt, and the overwhelming ident...
- 011 | Emma H - Finding joy, managing emotions & healing (Part 2) (00:53:00)
⚠️ This episode touches on sensitive topics like depression, rage, and childhood trauma. Listener discretion is advised. In this raw and inspiring chat, I’m continuing my conversation with Emma Hopper. Together, we explore the powerful transformation she’s experienced as a Mum - going from the depths of depression, rage, and hopelessness to a place of joy, connection, and laughter with her kids. Emma opens up about the tools, mindset shifts, and hard work it took to get there. We’re ta...
- 010 | Emma H - Maternal rage, emotional regulation & mental health (Part 1) (00:54:52)
⚠️ This episode includes discussions about miscarriage, postpartum depression, suicide and experiences of maternal rage. Please take care while listening and reach out for support if needed. Emma opens up about her journey through some of the darkest moments as a Mother, including her experiences with miscarriage, postpartum depression, intense maternal rage, and the impact on her mental health and relationships. Emma shares how her initial steps into Motherhood were marked by lo...
- 009 | Nita I - Identity, overcoming guilt, and finding balance in Motherhood (Part 2) (00:41:16)
In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with Nita to dive deep into the journey of Motherhood and the challenges that come with balancing personal identity and parental responsibilities. Together, we unpack the often-overwhelming emotions of guilt and shame that many Mothers experience when they desire to reclaim their sense of self. Nita shares her candid story about navigating societal expectations, mental health, and the transformative power of setting boundaries and finding routin...
- 008 | Nita I - Abusive relationship and an abortion to redefining Motherhood (Part 1) (00:42:25)
⚠️ Trigger warning: In this episode, we discuss topics like abusive relationships, abortion, and postpartum mental health challenges. Please listen with care and pause if you need to. In this episode of Can We Fkn Talk?, I sit down with the incredible Nita to dive into her powerful journey into Motherhood. Nita opens up about her experience of finding herself in an abusive relationship at 21 and facing the gut-wrenching decision to end a pregnancy - a choice that deeply influenced her path ...
- 007 | Steph B - Emotional regulation, childhood trauma & relationships (Part 2) (00:54:28)
⚠️ This episode discusses postpartum depression, childhood trauma, and emotional challenges in parenting. Listener discretion is advised. In this episode, Steph Beers joins me for part two of our conversation, where she opens up about the emotional and psychological journey of Motherhood. Steph shares her personal experiences with postpartum depression, how it brought unresolved childhood trauma to the surface, and the transformative tools she embraced - like NLP and shadow work ...